Patrick here and today I want to share with you the three steps you must take if you really want to free yourself from any barriers, obstacles or limitations that currently are holding you back from creating the results you want in any area of your life…

This is the foundation we at Life Coaching Sydney use for all our change work. As you know there are many life coaches out there and there are numerous ways to create a change, however having done life coaching for more than 15 years this is the real deal when it comes to change.

The three steps to real change:

1) You must find the foundational building blocks of what’s holding your ‘problem’ in place, whether this is a negative belief, disempowering mind chatter or crippling emotions such as fear. Not many life coaches are aware of these foundational pieces are many times only working with you from what I call a surface perspective. That is they don’t deal with real cause of your ‘problem’ or challenge, instead they work on the symptoms such as changing a belief or setting goals and hold you accountable to them etc. Which is good but it doesn’t really free you long term.

What needs to happen in a life coaching session is for you and the coach together go on a journey of discovering the root causes of what’s holding you back etc. This root cause is usually painful forgotten memories, which today is controlling very much of your behaviour and though processes. However most of us have come so used to them we think it’s us, we have no clue it’s something from the past still controlling us today.

This might not be easy to grasp and accept, however it’s still is true. These memories effect you today as a calculator with one button not working would when we do calculations. Imagine for a moment that you have a calculator that every time you press 5 it actually show 2, now imagine you are going to make some important calculations using this particular calculator. What kind of results would you get? Wrong ones, as they are based already on a false assumption that when you press 5 you get 5, however that’s not the case.

This is exactly what’s happening with most people today, they believe they’re making right decisions based on rational thinking, and that is a tragedy. This is why it’s so important to find those basic foundational building blocks.

(If you want to discover you foundational blocks, please contact us at Life Coaching Sydney for a special introductory session. Fill in form to the right or use email below)

The second step is…

Unfortunately not many life coaches in Sydney are aware of the importance of this second step…

2) The second step really comes down to releasing the energy charges in these foundational memories. All your irrational fears, doubts, worries and negative thinking and disempowering habits stems from these energy charges. You could sum it up like this “No energy charges = no irrational emotions, thinking or habits” that stops you from realising your goals easily and effectively.

In our life coaching programs, we spend majority of our time together releasing these energy charges as when they’re are dissipated or released you’ll have a freedome to create your life according to your own intentions and decisions as opposed to being controlled by your energy charges. You’ll find out more about these and get a practical experience in your introductory session.

The last one is a critical step to take if you want to have real results from your life coaching program…

3) This last step is channeling your energy, thoughts and behavi0urs in a strong flow towards realising your goals and dreams. We do this by process we call The Purpose Program, now that your energy charges are dissipated and released, we can take this new powerful energy you’ll have and channel it towards making your goals and results come to fruition. The steps here are simple but what we do is putting it into a format that any successful creation is based upon. It’s the same three components that needs to be aligned in order to accelearate and effectively manifest your goals, theese three components are BE, DO and HAVE.

At first glance these three components might not look like much, however if you allow yourself you can see these components in any successful person, business or project. They all have these three aligned. That’s what you’ll have when you do a coaching program with us. This is taking the invisible (your dreams, goals and ideas) and making them visible.

If you feel inspired to please contact us at Life Coaching Sydney for a special introductory session, where you can experience the power of these three steps.

Looking forward to hearing from you and assist you in making your dreams come into reality.

Cheers,

Patrick (International Trainer/Master Coach – Life Coaching Sydney)

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Patrick here from Life Coaching Sydney…today we are going to explore the concept of NLP and does NLP coaching really work?

There’s a lot of talk today amongst life coaches and in the life coaching industry about NLP. And we know there’s a lot of coaches around the world using NLP in their coaching as a way of transforming people. Some people claim to have benefited from this type of life coaching and some are trying to find a life coach that provides NLP. Howeverr with all of this in mind, does NLP coaching really give you the long term benefits it promises?

As someone who has studied the mind with passion for 25 years and helped thousands of individuals tranforming their lives, I know what the real components are for a successful life coaching program. Before I share them with you, lets have a look at how NLP works and what it works with.

NLP is short for Neuro Linguistic Programming. It was developed in the 70’s by Richard Bandler and John Grinder. It primarily works with your subjective experience and how your organise your internal world. The major premise it’s build upon is the concept of wanting to change for fix something by using the internal pictures and sounds you have. At the root it’s how your internal pictures and sounds are represented that is causing you the problems you have. However wanting to change those using NLP is usually very short term change, you might feel really good for the moment but this wont last long. Usually the person going through a session of NLP with a life coach will find themselves 2-3 months down the road having the same problem occur again, whether that’s a habit you wanted to change or an disempowering emotional pattern resurfacing again.

Why is that and what would be a better way to create a lasting and stable change for yourself?

What NLP is missing in addressing, is the glue that holds your problem in place (whether this is destructive habits, negative self talk, disempowering emotions like fear or doubts, limiting beliefs)…and that glue is what I call your ‘energy charges’. Energy charges is the real key to long term and stable change.

If you really want to be free of whatever is holding you back, you need to look at the energy charges that are popping up in your consciousness. Example of everyday energy charges would be e.g. your mum or spouse says something to you and you immediatley go into a negative state or you think about your goals and dreams but  negative thoughts and emotions pop up. You see it’s not the pictures or the sounds your mind makes that’s holding you back, it’s the negative energy charges that is underlying these pictures and sounds that keeps these patterns in place. 

If you didn’t have these negative energy charges, the pictures, thoughts and feelings would not even come into your mind. They are only their due to these charges. It’s like a battery filled with energy charge, when the battery is full in a hand held lamp the light is quite strong, but the more the energy charge in the battery is released (used) the less power the actual light is in the hand held lamp.

The same goes for your energy charges.  

(By the way if you want to experience the freedom of releasing energy charges please contact us at Life Coaching Sydney and we will arrange a special introductory session for you)

This is what’s missing in NLP as they are only working with the pictures and sounds themselves not the energy charges. And that’s why I boldly would say that NLP doesn’t work for long term and stable change.

And this is why I work with your energy charges, to create the most effective change method I’m aware of and come across in my 25 years of experience. If you feel like you would want to experience this for yourself, please contact me at patrick@lifecoachingsydney.com.au and we can organise a special introdutory session for you.

Hope you enjoyed this little post and looking forward to assisting you in true transformation.

Cheers,

Patrick (International Trainer/Master Coach – Life Coaching Sydney)

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Patrick here again from Life Coaching Sydney…here’s part 2 of The Silent Killer of Dreams and Goals (if you haven’t read the first part please see post below).

Why you should feel excited about resistance..

Is there anything good about resistance? Yes, there is.

Resistance is your gold mine. From my experience in life coaching one-on-one and conducting training’s to become a life coach, I‘ve noticed that…where people have their biggest resistance and fear, is where their biggest breakthroughs and life transformation will happen.

Your resistance is your biggest breakthrough. If you truly want to reach your goals, take your life to the next level and start living your ultimate life then you would want to see resistance as your best friend saying something like — “Hey, it‘s time to grow, it‘s time for your biggest breakthrough, just take action, move forward despite me. I‘m here to make you grow.“

Make a commitment to yourself from now on to be excited and curious about your resistance. It‘s just showing you where the key is to your ultimate life; your resistance is your key to your success, if you continue moving forward with excitement about your resistance.

How do you move forward when you have resistance? Here’s some life coaching tips: 

1.Notice your resistance.

2.Notice when you have resistance.

3.Know that you are choosing the resistance (consciously or unconsciously) as a way for you to know where your key to success and breakthroughs are.

4.Decide to feel excited and curious about the resistance.

5.Move forward and take action even when you experience resistance.

6.Let resistance be your trigger to take action. (e.g. you know when they start a swimming contest they shoot the gun, and what do the swimmers do? That‘s right, they dive in and start swimming like crazy to reach their goal. The resistance is the gun firing as the signal to start taking action).

 7.Write down on a piece of paper that you can bring with you, and write your most important learning about resistance. Read it everyday as reminder so you can start living beyond resistance.

Remember, in the end resistance is a creation of your mind. And if it‘s a creation of your mind, then you can also uncreate it. If you would compare your mind to a bus, then my question would be to you, who is driving the bus? (This is a great question, even though it’s not a necesserily a life coaching question)

If you are interested in getting more information about Life Coaching Sydney training’s or a personal life coaching program for yourself, please contact me (see details under contact us page or fill in form to the right for a complimentary session).

We have training and coaching programs that will give you the strategies and skills to not only go beyond resistance, but to create your ultimate life and achieve your most exciting goals and outcomes. If you have any comments or questions about this article, please feel free to call or email me, would love hear from you.

To your success and happiness!

Best regards,

Patrick Dahdal (International Trainer/Master Coach – Life Coach Sydney)

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Patrick here again from Life Coaching Sydney…I have a new article for you today and it deals with the most unconscious barrier that almost everyone faces but few recognize…

Someone once asked me —What do you think is the biggest killer of people‘s dreams and goals?“ My first thought was, as I pondered on the answer, that people are too caught up in their day to day life (paying bills, the mortgage etc), instead of focusing on designing their ultimate life. Most people are caught up in surviving vs. living their ultimate life.

(…and by the way that’s where a life coach can assist with some great life coaching strategies…)

As I thought that, I asked myself a new question: —What ultimately stops people from realizing their goals?“ And then it hit me. People don‘t achieve them because of one thing, and it‘s a very sneaky one. Most people don‘t even realize that it‘s happening. It‘s called resistance.

What is resistance?

Have you ever experienced a time when, you set a goal or a new year‘s resolution, and when you set it you were really excited and couldn‘t wait to have it realized? And the first few days or weeks you actually followed through, you did go to the gym three times a week, you started to eat healthier or you stopped smoking. And then out of no where, you just woke up one day and didn‘t feel like going to the gym or doing that morning walk.

Well, there you go. You experienced resistance.

But then you rationalized it, which what resistance wants you to do, so that you don‘t change. Rationalization is our way of trying to feel better about our resistance. Typical one‘s are —I don‘t have the time“ —I‘ll do it later“ —I don‘t have the money“ —It‘s not that important“ etc. Another example of resistance is when you just don‘t feel like picking up the phone and making that call you know is important.

(Now for those of you who really want to go beyond this, I recommend you come for a free life coaching session with me Patrick – Life Coaching Sydney. You’ll walk away from this session with a new awareness, clarity and strength that will let you know exactly what steps you need to take to create the results you want. You can book by filling in form to the right.)

Resistance is when you start a new project and feel totally excited about it and then somewhere…

…in the middle you lost your enthusiasm. Another classical example is when someone tells us to do something, which could lead to an immediate feeling of resistance. How do you feel when someone tells you that you ”have to‘ or you ”must do‘ this or that? You would probably say ”No freaking way‘.

And this is what most people do to themselves every single day and then wonder why they can‘t reach their goals or desires. Think about this, when you tell yourself —I have to go to the gym“ or —I must pay my bills“ or —I should not smoke anymore“.

(Side note: And in my experience some people who would like to find a life coach never get around doing it, not even when they have an opportunity to experience life coaching for free. Unfortunately that’s how strong resistance can be, usually until someone has experienced enough paid or suffering.)

How do you think that will make you feel?

Not that good I would assume. And if you did say to yourself —I must not smoke anymore“ you probably would end up smoking even more. How can I recognize resistance in my own life? Resistance can be very subtle; you might forget to do things that are important to you. You might watch TV instead of doing another presentation to a prospective client. This is called procrastination, just another form of resistance.

You might have to talk to your boss about a pay increase but fear sets in so you don‘t. Fear is also another form of resistance. Resistance comes in many forms. The feeling of resistance could be described as —pushing against“ or —I can‘t“ or —moving forward with the brakes on“. These are just some examples of how it can feel. You can have resistance towards objects, situations, people, events, things people say or do etc.

Have you ever met someone you just didn‘t want to talk to or be in their company? Or you might have a friend who you don‘t like to hang out with that much? That‘s resistance.

Why should you feel excited about resistance?…Read in the next post which will be part two of this article series.

Hope you enjoyed this and looking forward to seeing you in the next article or in a complimantery session.

Best regards,

Patrick (International Trainer/Master Coach – Life Coach Sydney)

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Patrick here again, this time I want to share with you a few important pointers about life coaching , how it works, what a life coaching program consists of and why we at Life Coaching Sydney create some extraordinary results with our clients.

Before you read on, one of the best way to learn about life coaching is to attend a complimentary session. This session is about 60 mintues and you’ll walk away with renewed optimism, clarity, strength and tools to improve any area of your life. Click here now to book your complimentary session.

Life Coaching is a dynamic relationship where, you and the coach will discover the real goals and outcomes you want to have come to fruition. After that you get into the next phase which is to uncover what the obstacles, barriers and stops you might have that is blocking your progress towards your goals/outcomes.

Here are a few common stops or obstacles peolel experience: 

1) These could be negative thought patterns e.g. “I can’t do this” or “I’m not good enough, who will listen to me”, etc. 

If you want experience the power of a coaching session then and learn how you can let go of limiting and negative thought patterns. Then book your complimentary session by clicking here and we will organise a time for you with one of our coaches at Life Coaching Sydney.

Here are two other common obstacles…

2) These could also be negative emotions such as fear, anxiety or anger etc which pops up and hinders you from living at your peak.

3) Another aspect as well of common obstacles are disempowering behaviors or habits e.g. procrastinantion, not following through or getting distracted. These are very common and also very ’sneaky’ as most people are not always consciously aware of them.

In a life coaching program, the major foccus is:

a) Clearly identify what you want e.g. goals, outcomes and results – this is a many times a big eye opener for people.

b) Unocver what the obstacles and stops are – and then eliminating these. A person will feel a great sense of freedom and excitement when their obstacles and stops are not their anymore.

c) Create the necessary actions steps, habits and behaviours to achieve the outcome set.

Plus much more…instead of reading about it…get an experience of it, read below…

Hope this helps and remember if you want to experience a shift in your life, book a complimentary session without any obligations. Click here now.

Please email me if you have any questions or queries: patrick@lifecoachingsydney.com.au

Patrick (International Trainer/Master Coach)

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1) You are happy with everything in your life

2) You have no fears, worries or doubts that are holding you back from creating what you want in life

3) All areas of your life is in perfect condition and everything is running smoothly

4) You have no goals or results you want to accelerate your progress towards

5) You know what your purpose in life is and you’re actually living it

Of course there could be more reasons, but this will suffice. If above is true, you don’t need a life coach. A life coach is for someone who wants to create more, achieve more and go beyond any personal limitations that is holding that individual back from their full potential.

The promise of life coaching is that once you’re on the path with a person who is as excited as you to achieve your goals, creating your dreams and is there for your to move beyond any fears, doubts and worries…the results you want will come to fruition in much faster pace than you can probably imagine right now.

Here’s few tips to find a life coach, the right one for you:

1) Get a free complimentary session to get an idea and sense for the style of coaching and you feel that you can trust this person.

2) Ask the coach for their experience in working with people and what motivated them to become a life coach. There are many life coaches in Australia and to find the one that suits you comes down to trust and that this person can deliver what they promise. 

This is also true for you, to get the most out of life coaching you must be willing to confront your ’inner demons’ and take full responsability. Now most people are not willing to do this they rather do anything else than confront their fears etc. However with the right personal life coach you’ll be taking journey towards more freedom and a life you love to live.

The third thing you want to find out is…

3) Make sure you can get some testimonials of people who have worked him or her and so can verify their effectiveness and professionalism.

If you have any quesitons or you want a free session with myself, please email me: patrick@lifecoachingsydney.com.au

Warmest regards,

Patrick

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